What to do When Your Insight is Ignored, Dismissed, or Minimized

 

Sometimes having insight is going to hurt. Others aren't always going to want your cure for what ails them.

Even those who most need what you have may not want it. Not because it's not good. Not because what you have to say isn't important. Not because what you know isn't different, but because it is.

The thing you value, the thing you want to communicate to those you care about represents strength and joy to you, but to them it represents inadequacy and change.

Not many of us run down to the Inadequacy and Change Convenience Store in our jammies because we got a wild craving.

If you have insight and you're offering it kindly, you aren't rejected, ignored, dismissed, or marginalized because you're different, but because those you want to impact aren't yet ready to be different.

You must resist the temptation to close up, and close off. Self-congratulatory and self-protective hoarding of insight isn't brave or compassionate. The point of having unique understanding or a different point of view is to have something to give to others to help them, to relieve them, to move them forward.

Don't stop short in mere uniqueness or feeling superior as a "have" instead of a "have not." Don't give up on those who need you.

 

But don't get louder or harder or more intense either.

 

Get softer. Subtle. Stealthy. Stop focusing on what you know and how great it is, and become a relentless student of those who are resisting your insight. Figure out why they can't hear you. There's a reason; there's always a reason. Understand what they're afraid of. Maybe they're protecting their uniqueness.

 
 

Not being able to reach those you care about with your deepest insights will be a source of sadness for you. Expect it. Don't resist the resistance of others. Rather, use their resistance to perfect your message.

They need you.

Be ruthlessly compassionate.

"Not being able to reach those you care about with your deepest insights will be a source of sadness for you. Expect it. Don't resist the resistance of others. Rather, use their resistance to perfect your message." —Susan Wilkinson #TheCuratedSoul

"Not being able to reach those you care about with your deepest insights will be a source of sadness for you. Expect it. Don't resist the resistance of others. Rather, use their resistance to perfect your message." —Susan Wilkinson #TheCuratedSoul


 

Compassion for others is rooted in compassion for yourself.

The Curated Soul's three paths—self-examination, self-leadership, and self-expression—are designed to increase your self-compassion.

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