This might be old news to you. This might be a revelation. It might be a good reminder. Your soul, like your body, has a natural, good, and useful structure. The goal isn't to escape that structure, but to discover the beauty of it and use it to its full potential.
Effective self-examination is grounded in understanding basic human nature. Internal conflict is a sense of disorder, and to restore a sense order we have to know what the natural order of the soul looks like.
The natural order of the soul is the foundation for creating internal peace.
In other words, it's the basis of the diplomatic conversation you're going to have with yourself. It's critical stuff to really know with certainty.
The human soul is triune in nature; we have a mind, emotions, and a will. We think, we feel, and we act—that's pretty basic. The bit that often gets ignored is that we think, we feel, and we act, in that order. By thinking we form our beliefs, which form our values and excite our desires. Our beliefs and desires—our thoughts and our emotions—then set our wills into motion and we act.
We think about what is good, right, valuable. We desire what is good, right, and valuable, and we become motivated to go out and get it.
These functions of the soul are not divided. They are one, all working together in perfect agreement and harmony.
We behave how we behave because we believe what we believe.
Huh? How can they be working in perfect harmony if we have inner conflicts?
Because we don't think or believe perfectly. Or consistently. Our beliefs are a mixture of truth and untruth, logical ideas and totally incoherent ones, conscious and unconscious, all mixed together in a lump that we can never fully comprehend at one time.
In our practical experience it looks something like this...