Each path has a different underlying cause, and need, so each requires a different approach.
Needing the Self-Examination Path is a result of big loss, long-term denial of deep problems or suppressed questions (usually suppressed from fear of loss). To make progress on this path, you have to begin with radical self-honesty about what you’re feeling and experiencing.
So say it out loud while you’re alone in the car. Or write it in a private journal. But somehow, listen to the truth of your soul. Do you have doubts you’re denying? Do you have longings you can’t admit?
If you can’t say what’s true, then begin by acknowledging that truth. Then ask what’s got you so spooked. Find the fear.
Needing the Self-Leadership Path is a result of being on auto-pilot for too long and losing the Big Picture of why you want what you want or why you’re doing what you’re doing. To begin making progress on this path, take the bird's eye view of your life. Specifically, take note of what's not working. And then question your assumptions.
Just because it’s your family should you kill yourself and lose your joy trying to feel like you belong? Just because you have a good paying job, does that mean you should hold onto it even though you hate it? Or is there more to work than money?
Just because a change you want to make will hurt or disappoint others or be really hard for you, does that mean you can’t or shouldn’t make the change?Questioning what you've long-held to be "the way it is" or "the way it should be" can be the first step to freedom and joy that are missing in your life. Look for the most important reasons you’re on a particular course, or the reasons you’re afraid to change course.
Needing the Self-Expression Path is a result of recognizing your talents (sometimes to the exclusion of others’ talents), but perhaps missing the greater point of them. To begin making progress on this path, observe what makes you feel rejected, overtly or subtly. And observe the ways you’re coping, or not coping with that feeling.
Do you subsume your talent under someone else’s to avoid taking rejection personally?
Do you make yourself smaller, denying your best parts in order to be acceptable to others and fulfill their expectations?
Do you take your talents to a friendlier audience, but leave the ones you love most without your insights?
Do you reject the rejection by embracing your “other-ness” but end up feeling more isolated or angry?
When you know how you’re coping you can decide if it’s working for you… or if it’s time to take another approach.
These are just a taste of the things you can do on the growth paths. I’ll be unfolding more over time.