Inner conflict isn’t complicated. It’s just a conversation—well, an argument really—that you’re having with yourself. Self-examination is how you discover the primary subject matter of the argument so that you can play peacemaker.
Peacemaking between disagreeing parties, even if both parties are you, is a diplomatic conversation.
Effective diplomacy first establishes the common ground. Common ground in a conversation with yourself isn't so much about first finding where you agree with yourself before you move onto areas of disagreement. When it comes to finding common ground with yourself it's about establishing agreement about how the disagreement will be arbitrated.
Understanding the problem through self-examination isn’t a good thing if there’s no real hope for healing the breach. In fact, knowing the conflict and not being able to resolve it can lead to either despair or skepticism (which is intellectual despair).
Before we look at the ground rules for making peace between the warring factions in your soul, we have to look at the anatomy of an internal conflict, and that begins with looking at the simple anatomy of a human soul.